This is the story of me courting, winning, and losing a wild animal. This was in Guangzhou, a Chinese city of 14 million people, and she was a cat who lived the first seven months of her life under a bush next to a metro station. …

“[There is] something so obvious it hardly needs pointing out about the epic loneliness of a society in which people live across the country from their families, don’t know their neighbors, fuck strangers, and see their friends mostly online.” …

One of the many images of Lesya Toumaniantz that went viral after a first date ended with her getting the dude’s name tattooed across her face.

Lesya’s was not the first face he’d tattooed. The first to get him in the headlines was one that involved a British tourist who’d walked into a shop he was working at in northern Belgium. …

Sourced from LoneStarTravelGuide.com

I’ve only seen it once in my life and, at the time, for some reason, thought it was called The Cadillac Graveyard, which still seems a more fitting name. It is also how I’ll refer to it for the rest of this story.

The best way I can think to…

In the short story “Omakase,” by Weike Wang, the protagonist, a Chinese-American woman who had a conservative upbringing, says, while assessing an Asian-American waitress with blue hair and a nose ring, something along the lines of You don’t know how many generations before you had to struggle just so you…

A Wandering Thought Experiment

One of the Chinese character for the verb form of “suicide” that gets referenced later…

The results you get when you type “suicide” and “joke” into a search engine are almost all variations of Suicide isn’t a joke or Don’t joke about suicide, but there are a few gems. …

Part 1

I tried something new this school year and assigned Chuck Palahniuk’s 1996 breakout hit Fight Club as the novel for the first semester reading assignment. …

From “The Cult of Dave” to “The Magic of David Foster Wallace,” an odd resurgence of interest in the late author is taking place. Fans take note: this essay is me bouncing a few ideas off his legacy and not so much about the dude himself.

Image from NPR’s underrated series: “Blank on Blank”

At the start of…

In getting ready my newest two-person post-punk project, the drummer and I put in many fine hours drinking and brainstorming names that would embody the spirit of the thing. I’m convinced the name of a band is equally as important as the music itself. Great bands with shitty names (i.e…

In 2011 I wrote a 3-part article called “Fierce Creatures: the Myth of Dolphin Sex on the Hawaiian Islands,” part 2 of which is still (oddly) the most-read piece on my Medium page and features Malcolm Brenner, author of a book called Wet Goddess that details his relationship with a…

Bender Bender

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